Inner Mean Girl Transformational Tale… How I Transformed my Inner-Bully

 In Empowering Your Inner Wisdom, IMGs in Your Business, IMGs in Your Love Life, Self Compassion Activators, Shifting Toxic Habits, Transformational Tales

By Katie Leathers, Inner Mean Girl Reform School Graduate.

KaEe LeathersInner Mean Girl Reform School changed my life. I knew I wanted to do it a year before I actually took the plunge, and when the opportunity presented itself again, I knew it was time.

I have always struggled with bullying, first from others, which I then internalized to bully myself. Growing up with a verbally abusive stepfather, I was bullied daily by a person who was supposed to love me and protect me. As a result, unconsciously, I took on his voice within my own thoughts and I didn’t even realize it.

Before Inner Mean Girl Reform School, I simply thought that people on the outside were mean to me. I couldn’t see the truth: I was meanest to myself. I bullied myself every single day with negative self-talk about how I was not good enough, how I was a failure, and how I didn’t deserve what other people have. I tolerated dysfunctional situations, less than desirable wages, and romantic isolation. I felt like a victim. I didn’t see the path to receiving what I truly desired. It was easier – and safer – to stay numb and avoid taking the steps that might bring me what I wanted. The irony, of course, was that although I was trying to protect myself from being hurt and disappointed, I stayed stuck.

When I began Inner Mean Girl Reform School, Amy Ahlers and Christine Arylo gave me “permission” to start dreaming and to start putting my desires above all else – even when that meant disappointing another.

They made it okay to cultivate my natural feminine strengths, when for much of my life, I was bullied for being too weak and too sensitive. I learned where my fears stemmed from, and how to respond to the mean voices in my head. Through the process, I started to see myself becoming more receptive to having what I desired – income that allows me to fully live my truth, a home that nourishes me and supports my growth and creativity, and sexual empowerment. My Inner Mean Girl definitely resisted this process, and still flares up, but the tools I learned in Inner Mean Girl Reform School are making it easier to navigate my inner relationship.

Now, I take time each day to check in with my Inner Wisdom about what she has to say and I have turned my Inner Mean Girl into a partner, rather than an unbridled bully. I am developing such a rich and rewarding relationship with this wise part of me. My Inner Wisdom most recently guided me to leave a job that was holding me back and draining my energy, and to take a chance on love. I spend time cultivating my relationship with my Inner Mean Girl as well, so that she can share need-to-know information with me so that I make informed decisions, but she no longer gets to run my life.  I am so grateful for my Inner Mean Girl Reform School experience.

Amy and Christine gave me my life back.  They gave me the tools to co-create a life that I never imagined would be possible for me to have.  I’m more compassionate with myself & others, and now live with more passion, joy, grace & creativity.


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